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The Violin


    Even since my son, Nicholas, was a baby, he had a strong love of music. It would soothe him to sleep at night and cause him to laugh and dance though his days.


    When he discovered, toward the end of his second grade year, that he would be able to learn to play a musical instrument as a third-grader, he could not contain his joy.  And, when he found out that the violin was one of his options, he insisted that we read every book and watch every video we could find on the subject.


    All summer long, he talked about becoming a professional “violin player” and having concerts in our backyard for the neighbors.When he was finally assigned a violin, he carried it with him every place. He would sleep with it, bring it on vacation, take it with him to parties and play it day and night.


    About three months into the school year, I stopped seeing the violin. Nick said he had lost it and his music teacher informed me it was not at school. Nick and his brothers searched the house for it, but it was nowhere to be found.


    Shortly thereafter, while cleaning out my basement, I noticed the violin, broken into pieces, stuffed behind my water heater. When Nick saw me carrying the pieces upstairs, he began to cry.


    The words he spoke that day, more than 12 years ago, will remain with me forever. “Mommy, I am too stupid to play the violin. My brain is broken and I can’t learn. Everyone else is smarter than me. I hate the violin and I hate my stupid brain.”


    The next day, I took the pieces of his violin into a meeting with his Music Teacher. She looked at the pile of wood that was once his violin and said, “This doesn’t surprise me.


    Your son is the most oppositional student I have ever met. He is constantly dropping his bow, he doesn’t follow the simple directions the other students follow with ease, he is constantly apologizing instead of working harder – I am really at my wits’ end with him.”


    When she finished complaining about my son, I asked her if she had ever heard the term PDD-NOS.



    I then informed her that my son was a student with disabilities who had an IEP that provides for accommodations and modifications in the areas she has just been complaining about.

   

   I explained that most of her lessons required him to “cross mid-line” and that for Nick it was like crossing the Atlantic Ocean. We discussed his fine-motor difficulties, his inability to follow multi-step directions and the fact that he could have been very successful in her class had she taken the time to read and implement his IEP, given his very high level of motivation.


    By the time the discussion ended, SHE was crying. She took a copy of his IEP and promised to read it from “cover to cover.”


    At that point, I had to tell her that Nick would be removed from her class because too much harm had been inflicted. He already believed himself to be a failure and his spirit had been completely crushed.


   I explained that I was having this discussion with her in an effort to prevent this from happening to other children with disabilities she would be working with in the future.   

 

Renay Zamloot

Non-Attorney Education Advocate

23 Wellington Drive

Annandale, New Jersey 08801


Phone: 908-730-0080

rzamloot@rzeducationadvocate.com

www.rzeducationadvocate.com



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